Today was my second to last day in my favourite place in the world, Bali, or more specifically Ubud. I’ve been here for a 31 blissful days, got quite a lot of writing done, hosted a writers retreat, had lots of down time, and started some exciting new projects.
I booked myself in for a full spa day today as a final treat to myself. I’m all about extreme self care and this was a beautiful way to wind up my trip.
At lunchtime I met another solo traveller who’d been travelling for the past three months and over lunch we got to talking about life, as you do. She mentioned that people had commented on some of her posts that she was “so lucky”. We discovered that we both object strongly to the term.
Let’s look at the term luck for a moment. The dictionary states: Luck is success or failure brought by chance rather than one’s own actions.
No wonder we both objected, it implies that our good fortunes have nothing to do with our hard work or tenacity. She worked long and hard to make her trip happen and was proud of her achievements, and rightly so. Luck has absolutely nothing to do with the fact that we are both following our hearts and dreams.
Here’s some other examples I hear and you may too.
“You are so lucky to have a good husband, marriage, relationship.” No, I’m not. Yes I do have a great marriage to a wonderful man, but luck plays no part in this. We both took a chance on love and made some crazy impulsive decisions when we met, and they worked. Our marriage is happy and strong, but this also has nothing to do with luck, we work at it and are both equally committed to making it last forever.
“You are so lucky to be able to travel so often”. No I’m not. It’s a lifestyle choice we made, based on how we want to live our life and our definition of happiness and fulfilment. We choose to live a simple life, with flexible working arrangements that afford us the ability to travel. I’d rather have a plane ticket and my passport than all the fancy things in the world.
“You are so lucky to work for yourself”. No I’m not. I worked in corporate, government and not for profit for over 35 years, and was blessed and grateful for the success I had in my career. I chose to work for myself. Self employment is not an easy path to follow but I wouldn’t change a thing. Self employment has no guarantees and I never know where my next dollar is coming from, but it provides me with the lifestyle I choose and freedom for travel.
“You are so lucky, you’ve lost weight and look good”. No I’m not. I battled my food addiction demons for over 35 years and this year I finally did what was necessary for my health and to save my life. This was not an easy decision and one that was permanent, with ongoing implications, but I’m so incredibly thankful I did it. I’ve never felt better and can look forward to the future with more enthusiasm than ever before.
“You are so lucky……insert the blank”.
I left school at the age of 15 and every single thing I’ve ever achieved has been the result of my own hard work and decisions I’ve made. I am not lucky.
Next time someone tells you that you’re lucky, or before you say it to another person, stop and ask yourself if it really is so?
Most of the time the people we see as lucky, have worked long and hard to get where they are.
Here’s to the “lucky” ones.
The risk takers.
The artists and creatives.
Those who chose to live life on their terms.
May you always go where you heart wants to take you.