The world is reeling right now. Violence is everywhere and we’re frightened. There has always been violence, but due to the internet, we have it right in our face, live even, as it happens. It’s scary, confusing, confronting and it’s pushing all of our buttons.
The U S and A (I love me some Borat) is smack bang in the middle of so much hatred and violence that it must be terrifying to be there right now. People in fear act in unpredictable ways and that is showing up everywhere you look.
There is much commentary today about the comparisons between our responses to gorillas being shot and people being murdered. There have recently been comparisons made regarding our response to the horrific nightclub shooting and violence in other less “white” countries. I understand these comparisons, they are natural. What we are experiencing is horrific and we are not used to being confronted again and again by the senseless killings of human beings, especially when we are using social media programs we signed up with in order to keep up to date with friends, baby photos and holiday photos.
The commentary, comparisons, keyboard philosophy and solution seeking will continue as long as these situations are present. As human beings, our brains are wired to try to make sense of what we are seeing, hearing and experiencing. We try our best to understand, contextualise and process as much as we can, things that are too horrific for us to grasp, and as none of it makes sense, we need to put stories around it in order to protect ourselves. It’s OK. We are doing our best. We are all doing our best.
The name of this post is lovers gonna love. I never use the word hate, I have a strong aversion to it. I really dislike it when people use the phrase haters gonna hate, it oozes anger, defensiveness and is really a discharge of discomfort and pain. There is so much hatred in the world right now and it hurts, it hurts all of us. You can feel it in the air, you can read it, hear about it and see it everywhere you look. I’ve seen many people today cancel planned webinars, newsletters and public talks as they don’t feel like they can move forward with their plans. They feel what they have to say right now pales in comparison to world events. I’ve had three in my inbox this morning alone. They feel out of control and confused as much as the rest of us and don’t know what to do about it.
I don’t know what the solution is to all of this. I’m just an Aussie girl living life the best way I know how, and I too am hurting. My heart hurts so much I can feel it.
What I do know is that hate will never win. Violent protests will never bring about sustainable change. What we focus on expands, if we focus on hate, we will bring in more hate. We need to focus on love, tolerance, compassion, understanding, patience and hope. We may not be able to influence public policy right now, but for today, we can focus on loving one another and remembering that we are all in fact, one.
May all beings everywhere be happy and free, and may the thoughts, words, and actions of my own life contribute in some way to that happiness and to that freedom for all.
I wish you peace, love, tolerance and understanding today.